Identify a relationship that is harmful or dangerous

A harmful or dangerous relationship means you are not safe.  Knowing how to identify one can save your and others lives. To find out more about identifying bad relationships read the guide below.


If you (or someone else) are in danger, or if you have been threatened, physically hurt or sexually assaulted, call triple zero 000.

To know when a relationship is unsafe and to know where to seek help

Let's start with why this is important:

  • being in a healthy and respectful relationship is essential to your health and wellbeing
  • identifying if you are unsafe means you can take steps to reduce your risk of harm

What to do next

Create a safety plan

You may find yourself in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. It helps to plan for your safety to reduce risks and to access support. Read through these tips or call Safe Steps on 1800 015 188

Need somewhere safe now?

Call Safe Steps 1800 015 188, to get a referral to a safe & secure shelter or emergency accomodation. Most shelters and accomodation location information is kept private for the safety of victims.

It is essential you get a referral to a safe space if you are unsafe at home. If you cannot call the hotline, ask someone you trust to do it for you.


Services Australia’s (Centrelink) Crisis Payment may help you financially if you’re experiencing domestic violence; call 132 850.

Use this link to find an Orange Door service near you, Orange Door assists people in domestic violence situations who need help with their children.

More Information & Services

  • CALL 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732, available 24/7 the National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service.
  • CALL SAFE STEPS  1800 015 188, email and hotline available 24/7
  • CALL Djirra 1800 105 303, supports Aboriginal women and Aboriginal people who are currently experiencing family violence or have in the past
  • All Relationships